Happy Friday (or Thursday night for some)! I hope you had a wonderful week. I did, but it was SO busy. I had my little sister and by little, I mean my son’s age, this week and I’m completely exhausted from having a household full time of four children! How do women do this? I’m sure it’s just a transition period, but my sister is leaving this weekend.
My son struggled socially this year, and although he was able to keep his grades up, he didn’t make many friends. So, I also spent part of the week preparing and enrolling him in a new charter school. Goodness, it’s all a racket!
The big news is that my baby girl, Butterfly is teething! Check out my Instagram account to see updated pictures. Her getting teeth is one more stage of acknowledging that I won’t have any babies [not] running around this house. They grow up so fast!
All that said, I’m SO happy it’s Friday and I missed last week’s #AskAwayFriday, but I’m back this week!
Now to welcome our wonderful #AskAwayFriday hosts…
Tiffany from Mrs. Tee Love Life Laughter,
Christy from Uplifting Families,
Stacey from This Momma’s Ramblings
Amber from Bold Fit Mom
- I see that you’re YouTube channel is Spirited Life LLC. Why did you decide to become an LLC? What are the benefits as it applies to blogging/YouTube? I decided to become a LLC initially because I worked with a friend as his talent agent. Spirited Life LLC would focus on tips of the entertainment industry trade. However, as I became a mother several times over, it became too much and the sacrifices I had to make to be a good agent were not in my grand scheme. Being a LLC solely for the blog has no real benefit, as I don’t foresee myself being sued, since I have plenty of disclaimers, I don’t claim to be an expert, and I don’t really sell anything of my own. Being a LLC requires you to pay particular taxes and the company itself is defunct. All of that said, I named my YouTube channel with LLC because SpiritedLife alone wasn’t available at the time.
- Sorry but I’ve had another question on my mind for you and it happens to be about blogging. I hope the non-bloggers aren’t yawning. You participate in quite a few linkups, how in the world do you stay on top of it all? Half of my posts are barely eked out at 3:00 amso I just can’t picture being that committed to others. Yep, how do you do it?!? LOL! By the skin of my teeth… what does that mean anyway? I work will with deadlines, so when I know something has to be done, I get it done. Although, now that it’s summer, it’s becoming very stressful. I have family visiting and I have been able to get to my blog a couple of times a week! EEEK! I’m questioning whether I should stay so involved in everything I do.
- I know you love playing volleyball. Do you watch professional matches on tv? If so, is there someone you admire? For some reason, I don’t watch any sports anymore. I used to watch volleyball, basketball and football games. But even though the NBA championship just happened, I didn’t even realize that the Spurs won until someone talked about it the next day. I admire all of them though. They have pursued their dream, kept going and made their bodies their career… That said, Eric Fonoimoana and Misty May-Treanor are favorites to watch. Granted, I don’t even know if they play anymore.
- What does a day in the life look like for you? I can’t help it…I really enjoy day in the life stories. Lately, it’s been truly insane. See, we only have one car. That’s not a problem on the “I need my own car” front, but it is a problem on the “I don’t want to drive you to work a half an hour each way” front. If I take the car (which means we can do something outside the house), I have to get up about 7 and get my kids dressed and ready to go (because they all have to go too!). Then I pour my coffee to drink on the ride, because it’s REALLY important I get my morning coffee. Then I take my husband to work. Thankfully we are no longer in Los Angeles, because I can actually take him to work and be home at a decent hour ~ although that decent hour is still about 9. Then I try to decide what we’re going to do for the day. If I woke up early, then I have to do something OUT of the house. We go to the park or pool. Of course, I have to get ready, so we don’t normally get out before 10. Our playdate is between 2 and 4 hours, then come home for nap time. Granted, this may not mean both girls nap. It may mean that I spend the nap time of one “trying” to put the other down. If both girls sleep, I try to blog, clean, or do whatever else needs to be done around the house. Then I start dinner, give the girls snacks then head out to pick my husband up from work. When I get back, feed the kids dinner, bathe them and put them to sleep. Depending on how I feel, I’ll blog. But for the last two weeks, I’m completely wiped by the time the kids go down, so no blogging for me. Yep, I’m a complete slacker.
- I read on one of your other AAF’s that you don’t have one particular passion but are excited about many things. I’m like you, I don’t necessarily have one specific passion that I focus on (hence the name of my blog). So when you hear things like “follow your passion and the money will follow” does it a) make you crazy to hear another cliche b) make you take a bunch of self assessments to determine what your passion is or c) you have no clue what I’m talking about because you don’t pay attention to such nonsense? I desperately search for my passion. I want one. I really do! I would love to just want to focus on one thing. However, I have a project in the making that may include my biggest passions. I hope to announce it soon! If, like you, I don’t get caught up in the planning and just put into action!
- You seem to be very much about relationships, which is a beautiful thing and very important. I’m trying to develop some relationships outside of my home…do you have any tips for cultivating relationships as an adult? I’ve been making a conscious effort to cultivate adult relationships. My advice is: do what’s uncomfortable… make the call you don’t want to make, invite them out, or over. Call and text often. Be annoying (something I hate), but what I realize is for me is “annoying”, is normal to other people. Talk to people you wouldn’t normally talk to. The worse they can do is move away or ignore you, and you don’t know them anyway, so who cares? Get their number and call it. Don’t do what I do and keep it in my phone and never touch it again.
- What is your favorite motivational quote and why? I need different quotes at different times. I love looking up different quotes based on my mood. Here are three that I lean upon:
- Going along with question above; do you have a vision board? Is it for fitness, your blog, something else? How often do you update it? No, I don’t have a vision board. I have a mock one on Pinterest, but I don’t post there very often. For my fitness board, I have a “pre” picture of myself. No, I don’t think I’ll ever look like that again (my shape has changed), but I want to slim back down and look like that again! The picture isn’t great, but you get the idea.
- I also have three children (now grown) and sometimes it seemed like I had different rules for each of them (especially when they got to be teenagers) . It really wasn’t being unfair but it was learning as a mother and also the child’s personality. Do you feel like you change the rules for different kids or are you fairly consistent across the board. If so, why? If not, would you ever? My two oldest children are as far on the opposite sides of the spectrum as possible. My son, Bunny, slept through the night at 6 weeks, would sit in the same spot of hours (as long as he wasn’t hungry) until pretty much he started school, wants to be liked and has recently relied on his “cuteness” to become the evil genius he is. However, my daughter, Bee, still doesn’t sleep in her bed, cries at the idea of naptime, screams for your attention at every waking moment and could care less about what you think. I couldn’t even imagine raising them the same. There’s no way that the rules can be the same or the way I enforce them. Since I can only compare at the two year old age, I never had to spank Bunny. Just the thought or threat of doing so would set him straight. Bee seems to ask for it, just so that she can complain to others that she’s the “victim” and saying “she hurt me” (which by the way she says for anyone who does something she doesn’t like). If you tell her no, she’s the kid you have to sit next to in time out because she will get up 100 times to “see” if you are being serious, while calling out “mom”. Whereas I forgot Bunny was in time out because the few times he was in time out, he sat there and sang to himself, never even attempting to leave. I say all of this to say that I’m as harsh as necessary, and I hate being even angry at them. Each one will be “raised” differently. I have a feeling Butterfly will be more like Bunny, which will ease my nerves!
- Speaking of rules, what is the one thing that you are unwavering on when it comes to your children and will continue to be when they get older (examples: eating dinner with the family, attending church, etc.)? I don’t have any unwavering rules. Right now they attend church and I hope they continue which we will encourage, but their faith with the Lord is between them and Him, not me. I didn’t grow up with very many hard and fast rules and I don’t think I do anything from my childhood that’s unwavering. My husband and I talk about lots of things, and often will find the way I do things unsettling for him. If it’s not working for him or the children, I’m open to listening to changes. If what I do works, then I don’t listen to him. LOL! I think children change and so do we, and I can’t think of anything right now that I could guarantee that I would not change!