Getting it All Done with Some Motivation

Happy Friday (or Thursday night for some)! I hope you had a wonderful week. I did, but it was SO busy. I had my little sister and by little, I mean my son’s age, this week and I’m completely exhausted from having a household full time of four children! How do women do this? I’m sure it’s just a transition period, but my sister is leaving this weekend.

My son struggled socially this year, and although he was able to keep his grades up, he didn’t make many friends. So, I also spent part of the week preparing and enrolling him in a new charter school. Goodness, it’s all a racket!

The big news is that my baby girl, Butterfly is teething! Check out my Instagram account to see updated pictures. Her getting teeth is one more stage of acknowledging that I won’t have any babies [not] running around this house. They grow up so fast!

All that said, I’m SO happy it’s Friday and I missed last week’s #AskAwayFriday, but I’m back this week!

What is #AskAwayFriday? Well…
#AskAwayFriday was created by the amazing Penny from Real Housewife of Caroline County as a way to connect with other bloggers with a great Q & A session of 10 questions and 10 answers! By offering a wonderful opportunity to get to know others while allowing others to get to know you and of course there is also the added bonus of making great friends along the way which is one of the best parts of this online world!

Now to welcome our wonderful #AskAwayFriday hosts…

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Tamara from Tamara Like Camera,
Tiffany from Mrs. Tee Love Life Laughter,
Christy from Uplifting Families,
Stacey from This Momma’s Ramblings
and
Amber from Bold Fit Mom
So…grab the brand, new button, follow our amazing hosts and co-host, hop through the great link ups and make some amazing new friends!

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This week, I exchanged questions with Carla from Real Into! She is a wife, mom and grandma who refuses to be called Mrs. or ma’am. If you’re a friend, call her Carli, if not, stick with Carla! I love her honesty and passion to helping others get fit and I aspire to get as much out of life as she showcases on her site! Make sure you take some times and review her blogging tips. She does a great job of breaking down the basics and helping you to be a more effective blogger!

Carla - Real Into

  1. I see that you’re YouTube channel is Spirited Life LLC. Why did you decide to become an LLC? What are the benefits as it applies to blogging/YouTube?  I decided to become a LLC initially because I worked with a friend as his talent agent. Spirited Life LLC would focus on tips of the entertainment industry trade. However, as I became a mother several times over, it became too much and the sacrifices I had to make to be a good agent were not in my grand scheme. Being a LLC solely for the blog has no real benefit, as I don’t foresee myself being sued, since I have plenty of disclaimers, I don’t claim to be an expert, and I don’t really sell anything of my own. Being a LLC requires you to pay particular taxes and the company itself is defunct. All of that said, I named my YouTube channel with LLC because SpiritedLife alone wasn’t available at the time.
  2. Sorry but I’ve had another question on my mind for you and it happens to be about blogging. I hope the non-bloggers aren’t yawning. You participate in quite a few linkups, how in the world do you stay on top of it all? Half of my posts are barely eked out at 3:00 amso I just can’t picture being that committed to others. Yep, how do you do it?!? LOL! By the skin of my teeth… what does that mean anyway? I work will with deadlines, so when I know something has to be done, I get it done. Although, now that it’s summer, it’s becoming very stressful. I have family visiting and I have been able to get to my blog a couple of times a week! EEEK! I’m questioning whether I should stay so involved in everything I do.
  3. I know you love playing volleyball. Do you watch professional matches on tv? If so, is there someone you admire? For some reason, I don’t watch any sports anymore. I used to watch volleyball, basketball and football games. But even though the NBA championship just happened, I didn’t even realize that the Spurs won until someone talked about it the next day. I admire all of them though. They have pursued their dream, kept going and made their bodies their career… That said, Eric Fonoimoana and Misty May-Treanor are favorites to watch. Granted, I don’t even know if they play anymore.
  4. What does a day in the life look like for you? I can’t help it…I really enjoy day in the life stories. Lately, it’s been truly insane. See, we only have one car. That’s not a problem on the “I need my own car” front, but it is a problem on the “I don’t want to drive you to work a half an hour each way” front. If I take the car (which means we can do something outside the house), I have to get up about 7 and get my kids dressed and ready to go (because they all have to go too!). Then I pour my coffee to drink on the ride, because it’s REALLY important I get my morning coffee. Then I take my husband to work. Thankfully we are no longer in Los Angeles, because I can actually take him to work and be home at a decent hour ~ although that decent hour is still about 9. Then I try to decide what we’re going to do for the day. If I woke up early, then I have to do something OUT of the house. We go to the park or pool. Of course, I have to get ready, so we don’t normally get out before 10. Our playdate is between 2 and 4 hours, then come home for nap time. Granted, this may not mean both girls nap. It may mean that I spend the nap time of one “trying” to put the other down. If both girls sleep, I try to blog, clean, or do whatever else needs to be done around the house. Then I start dinner, give the girls snacks then head out to pick my husband up from work. When I get back, feed the kids dinner, bathe them and put them to sleep. Depending on how I feel, I’ll blog. But for the last two weeks, I’m completely wiped by the time the kids go down, so no blogging for me. Yep, I’m a complete slacker.
  5. I read on one of your other AAF’s that you don’t have one particular passion but are excited about many things. I’m like you, I don’t necessarily have one specific passion that I focus on (hence the name of my blog). So when you hear things like “follow your passion and the money will follow” does it a) make you crazy to hear another cliche b) make you take a bunch of self assessments to determine what your passion is or c) you have no clue what I’m talking about because you don’t pay attention to such nonsense? I desperately search for my passion. I want one. I really do! I would love to just want to focus on one thing. However, I have a project in the making that may include my biggest passions. I hope to announce it soon! If, like you, I don’t get caught up in the planning and just put into action!
  6. You seem to be very much about relationships, which is a beautiful thing and very important. I’m trying to develop some relationships outside of my home…do you have any tips for cultivating relationships as an adult? I’ve been making a conscious effort to cultivate adult relationships. My advice is: do what’s uncomfortable… make the call you don’t want to make, invite them out, or over. Call and text often. Be annoying (something I hate), but what I realize is for me is “annoying”, is normal to other people. Talk to people you wouldn’t normally talk to. The worse they can do is move away or ignore you, and you don’t know them anyway, so who cares? Get their number and call it. Don’t do what I do and keep it in my phone and never touch it again.
  7. What is your favorite motivational quote and why? I need different quotes at different times. I love looking up different quotes based on my mood. Here are three that I lean upon: Be So Busy Seven Days of the Week Something Never Done
  8. Going along with question above; do you have a vision board? Is it for fitness, your blog, something else? How often do you update it? No, I don’t have a vision board. I have a mock one on Pinterest, but I don’t post there very often. For my fitness board, I have a “pre” picture of myself. No, I don’t think I’ll ever look like that again (my shape has changed), but I want to slim back down and look like that again! The picture isn’t great, but you get the idea. The Way Before
  9. I also have three children (now grown) and sometimes it seemed like I had different rules for each of them (especially when they got to be teenagers) . It really wasn’t being unfair but it was learning as a mother and also the child’s personality. Do you feel like you change the rules for different kids or are you fairly consistent across the board. If so, why? If not, would you ever? My two oldest children are as far on the opposite sides of the spectrum as possible. My son, Bunny, slept through the night at 6 weeks, would sit in the same spot of hours (as long as he wasn’t hungry) until pretty much he started school, wants to be liked and has recently relied on his “cuteness” to become the evil genius he is. However, my daughter, Bee, still doesn’t sleep in her bed, cries at the idea of naptime, screams for your attention at every waking moment and could care less about what you think. I couldn’t even imagine raising them the same. There’s no way that the rules can be the same or the way I enforce them. Since I can only compare at the two year old age, I never had to spank Bunny. Just the thought or threat of doing so would set him straight. Bee seems to ask for it, just so that she can complain to others that she’s the “victim” and saying “she hurt me” (which by the way she says for anyone who does something she doesn’t like). If you tell her no, she’s the kid you have to sit next to in time out because she will get up 100 times to “see” if you are being serious, while calling out “mom”. Whereas I forgot Bunny was in time out because the few times he was in time out, he sat there and sang to himself, never even attempting to leave. I say all of this to say that I’m as harsh as necessary, and I hate being even angry at them. Each one will be “raised” differently. I have a feeling Butterfly will be more like Bunny, which will ease my nerves! :)
  10. Speaking of rules, what is the one thing that you are unwavering on when it comes to your children and will continue to be when they get older (examples: eating dinner with the family, attending church, etc.)? I don’t have any unwavering rules. Right now they attend church and I hope they continue which we will encourage, but their faith with the Lord is between them and Him, not me. I didn’t grow up with very many hard and fast rules and I don’t think I do anything from my childhood that’s unwavering. My husband and I talk about lots of things, and often will find the way I do things unsettling for him. If it’s not working for him or the children, I’m open to listening to changes. If what I do works, then I don’t listen to him. LOL! I think children change and so do we, and I can’t think of anything right now that I could guarantee that I would not change!

 

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Getting it All Done with Some Motivation25 Comments

  1. I can't believe I wasn't following you on Instagram already! Boom! I've changed that!

    Lola is also teething. She's got her bottom front two and is working on two side ones on top (not the front middle ones). When they come through, she's going to be the cutest little vampire ever.

    I know exactly what you mean driving your husband to work and all that it involves. We are a two car family, but there are times when it makes more sense for us to drive him to work (because we'll be in the area already to pick him up after work). I HATE the extra work that involves for the sake of logistics!

    • I'm always surprised who I haven't followed on Social Media. It's not on purpose. We are looking for a temporary solution until I pay of some bills before we bring on a new bill, plus getting a better interest rate if we get rid of some things. Yes, it's always right at or after nap time, or just a lot of extra driving in circles! :

  2. My goodness! You are one busy woman! It makes me wonder how I've put so little time into my blog this week. I have a ton of catching up to do. I did see your picture on Instagram. So cute!

    I do have a church rule (or I wouldn't have asked you the question) but I am glad to see that you also treat your children individually. I don't think all moms are willing to admit that the rules are sometimes different for different kids. They want to seem fair. What's fair is taking into account individual personality.

    I think you are just too busy to watch sports!

    • I figured you did. Right now, they don't really have a choice (because they are minors and too young to stay home alone. I just haven't gotten to a point where it's become a question yet. Watching sports requires you to "watch" it… I can listen to other shows, but sports, you need to see what everyone is doing all the time! I was ahead for about two weeks, then my computer went down and I haven't caught up yet! Thanks for swapping with me. I just realized who you were! I love your comments!

  3. Honestly, i am with you on not being sure how I get the half of what I get done on a daily basis and somedays I think maybe I should just cut back, but then I couldn't and don't know how to truly sit still. My mind is seriously always going and spinning, I suppose.

    • There are three women that I admire on getting everything done… you are definitely one of them. I need to get more focused, there's so much that I want to do, I just need to do it.

  4. Hi April! I agree with you that trying to raise every child exactly that same would never work. The personalities, needs and such are always way to different.

    I have a few passions but I always get so caught up in the planning of every detail..that is something I really need to try and work on. To enjoy the process of things a bit more…

    • Yes, I also get caught up in the planning. Sometimes I can just do it, but often I find that when I get up in the planning, it's just because I'm afraid to get started because I know it's going to take SO much work once I put it into place. I'm not sure how I would handle MORE work! :)

  5. We did the one car dance a few years ago. It was tough. If I wanted the kids, I'd have to get up and take him to work and then pick him up. We both hated it, I'm sure. It loses some of that sense of freedom. However we were lucky to have that opportunity, I guess!
    I absolutely love your answer to #10. It's deep and open-minded.

    • Yes, he really misses his freedom, even though he works too far from anything to even go out for lunch. I think he likes just being able to work until he's done and being able to leave, instead of either working more because he has to wait for a ride or leaving before he's done because his ride is ready to go. Hopefully by end of summer, it'll all be done!

    • I look at my daughter every day and wonder WHERE she came from. She is so different from both of us. She's loud and rambunctious and hates her sleep. Thanks!

  6. I'd want to be passionate about so many things. Some say we can't have it all, others say we CAN have it all. I guess it's also about our mindset and outlook in life? I like your advice to do what's uncomfortable — because I think you'll only know who your real friends are if you do something that they don't necessarily like but they're still ok with it and they accept you for who you are.

    • I think we can have it all, but not always at the same time. I think to "do it all" you have to sacrifice so much… something has to give, there are only 24 hours in a day. Often to do it all we have to be uncomfortable too. When we want to sleep, we have to clean. When we want to clean, we have to play with the kids. I don't think we should try to do it all at the same time, but that's it's own blog post!

  7. Oh, gosh! I wrote you a comment at like five in the morning on Friday. I wonder what happened to it! I loved your tip about friendships so much that I said yes to a float trip next Saturday. I haven't been on one in about twenty years. Look at you giving me a gentle nudge!

    Your day seems so incredibly busy! Since my kids are grown I just don't feel like that any more. But I do take up my time in other ways.

    • Moderation sometimes steals comments… it's there now! :) Yay! That sounds like such a fun trip. This sumer is becoming packed and I'm not even trying! I think that's a good thing. I don't have to look at others having fun on Facebook, I can experience it!

  8. I know exactly what you mean about getting up early to drive the hubby to work, just to keep the car. Most days I am just not interested in doing so. But my kids are older and when they are not doing school work, they are generally off doing their own things. But my hubby gets home from work, about mid-afternoon, so most things we can do then. I really think that I have parented each of my kids differently to some degree and the same in others, but each one is different so different rules apply sometimes. Hope you have a great week, April!

    • Right now, my oldest is only 10, plus I have the two little ones… It's a lot to handle to keep them inside all day, every day. I try to let my husband take the car as often as possible! :)

  9. Great swap April, I have to treat all of my kids a bit differently because they all respond differently when it comes to discipline or motivating them to do their work. It has nothing to do with favoritism or anything like that, I just adapt to their individual needs.

    • Yes, I hope Bee doesn't see it as favoritism. I'm hardest on her but she's also the most trying. The others are more gentle. Saying no to her is like inviting a fighte every single time! But she's getting better. :)

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